Mamas, Don't Let Your Babies Grow Up to Read Stephenie Meyer

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If I'm not mistaken this is the Mormon author that I heard an interview with on NPR. I couldn't wrap my head around a Mormon author writing a vampire novel (this is based on three Mormons I've known personally and their explanations of their religions views on such things).
Yes, it's the same person. I was OK with her conservative outlook up until I read an interview with her where she claimed "everyone" in YA/teen novels were having sex and she wanted to offer a different outlook. I don't have a problem with abstinence (except that it doesn't really work) but I disagree with her claim about the prevalence of sexuality in teen/YA lit.

There are just some really interesting fluid ideas about sex and sexuality in the novels that she explains away by saying that the lead male character is from a different era, an thus would have different ideas about modern sexual mores. It was an easy out, and it just felt dishonest to me.
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thanks C. I've been curious about these as well, and just put them on hold at the library. I might give the first one a shot, or I might just cancel the holds, because there's a lot of good reading out there.
FWIW, Philip Pullman's Dark Materials series is pretty good reading, with a young heroine the most flag-waving feminist can get behind.
I've read the Twilight Saga, and I am a YA Librarian. Everything stated in this article is true, as I have been stating to anyone who would listen for a while now. I have no problem that Meyer wanted to write about teens not having sex, but, in this series, Bella would actually DIE is she has sex with Edward. In other words, you have premarital sex-you die. Might be the message some would approve of, but certainly not the bulk of the American population. As an avid reader of YA fiction (I have to...it's my job!), I can tell you that there is a wide variety of wonderful fiction out there for Young Adults...more than ever before. The Twilight Saga is a fun series, but the anti-feminist statements and push towards female inequality throughout the books (especially the third one) are extreme. If my daughter wanted to read these books, I would be certain to discuss the books downfalls-just as I do with my young patrons.
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I, having been coerced into reading the books by a well-wishing friend (I think), just finished Eclipse.

Whilst reading them I made two huge mistakes:

1. I carried the books and read them in various places around my high school, to which nearly every girl who passed me by stopped and asked, all of them in the same exact wording, "So do you, like, LOVE it?!"

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2. I talked to the same girls mentioned above about how, like, totally sm3xy Edward is.

Peer pressure is indeed an ugly thing.

Though I may be a wee bit too young to truly identify myself with any pool of thought (right on the threshold of my fifteenth birthday), I have always identified with feminism. And as an adamant feminist (and I hope that this doesn't sound terribly silly coming from a young teenager) I was disturbed by how pathetic Bella was in the books. I kept waiting for her to grow a spine or... anything, but it just never happened.

Unfortunately, the only people I could converse with on a regular basis about Twilight were fourteen and female, full of silly girl hormones and teen-bopper lust after a fictitious hottie.

Regardless, this was a wonderful and completely reasonable, truthful review.

While I do understand the arguments that you all present, I disagree with the idea that the book is anti-feminist, and unsuitable for young girls (and boys, if they so desire to read it).

Twilight is a young adult fiction novel, and these books are written from the perspective of a young adult. The series is not meant to be setting up a relationship between a man and woman for these kids to aspire to have. If so, it would be about adults that kids would look up to. Instead, the book revolves around a girl at the same confusing point in her life as the readers. Bella is a character that girls can identify with, because not all young women believe that they hold power.

Neither can all young ladies can manage to uphold the ultimate feminism ideals at all times. I had two relationships, one that was very Bella and Edward, and the other similar to Bella and Jacob, and I consider myself a strong young woman, and a voucher for gender equality. Yet, I also saw myself in Bella when I read New Moon, and I remembered that experience. I remembered how much it pained me to deal with, and how much I loved those two (at the time) young men.

The truth is, when you love someone that deeply, no matter what their faults are (overbearing or childish), there is a great possibility that you can become powerless to fight against them. Then they can take advantage of you, or compromise your beliefs. It happens to the best of us. It is not because a girl is weak that she allows this to happen. It is because love blinds people and blurs lines.

Twilight is not an example that Stephenie set for young girls to follow. It is a written confirmation that these relationships do happen, and that they may be destructive at times but that doesn’t make them bad experiences. A girl may very well feel like she has no control when she is in love, and the book shows that this is not an uncommon situation. Forget the ideals that make up Edward, and the chaos that is Jacob. Teens may be infatuated with them, but it isn’t hard to remember that they are indeed fictional characters. What young women really connect with is the emotions behind the story (however alike to the writings in livejournal).

Stephenie Meyer has created a character who is not kick *** like a super woman. Not all women possess that quality. (And what human woman in real life could physically hold her ground against vampires and werewolves? It’s a realistic point of view.) Bella Swan is not an avid feminist, and she was written that way for a reason. She is an outrageously skinny, physically unimpressive, teenage girl who is just as insecure with herself as several are at the age of 17.

Yet, if you look, you will notice that the book is not lacking in strong women. Alice Cullen and Victoria are present in all three books. Both of them most definitely have equality (if not the upper hand) in their relationships.

Side note:

I also think it is admirable that Stephenie Meyer writes some of her characters to be old fashioned. It’s refreshing. It’s not saying that Edward doesn’t want to have sexual relations with Bella. It means he has an unusual amount of self-control. After all, he’s had 107 years to perfect it.

Delia;

While the books are not supposed to represent what a good relationship is supposed to be like, it is, indeed, showing that these relationships, and the people in them, are perfectly fine, when they're not.

There is nothing wrong with feeling pain after breaking up with someone and it, by no means, is indicative of whether you're a weak or a strong female. It is wrong, though, to have no life outside of your boyfriend, resulting in you completely dying inside when they're not with you, anymore.

When you're, basically, a "doormat", you are being weak. You're letting other people control you and use you. It is not love. It is never love when someone manipulates and takes advantage of you when you're in a very sensitive state of mind. And if you're strong, you'd put a stop to this. You'll say, "No. I am not letting you take control of my life anymore. If you loved me, you wouldn't do this to me".

I have no opposition to realism in books, as do most fellow readers. The problem is this "realistic" behavior is seeing as being correct. Dark, scary subjects such as abusive boyfriends and suicide are romanticized in this series. You just stated how some of the relationships have been "destructive", yet it is not viewed this way in the books. Meyer gives a light to these subjects and hides what they truly represent.

Yes, it is hard to physically hold your ground against powerful, mythical creatures. Emphasis on the word "physical". How much physical strength you own doesn't have anything to do with your emotional strength. Nobody is asking for a super woman.

If you remember the scene where the Cullens and werewolves are fighting the newborns, Jasper is constantly getting in the way of Alice, preventing her from fighting her own battle.

Anyways, in response to this blog entry; I agree.
I disagree with this review, mostly for the reasons stated by Delia. I would like to point out that Stephenie has recently come out with an adult novel, The Host which portrays many very strong female characters; Mel, Sharon, Maggie, and The Seeker are just a few. Mel succeeded in evading both her own and her younger bother's capture for many years, and even after she is captured by the souls who have taken over earth, she refuses to fade away as most other humans whose bodies are occupied by souls have done. Mel is able to fight, and becomes friends with the soul inside her body. She is a very strong character, and one that I can imagine having feminist values. The main narrator, Wanda, who is the soul in Mel's body, is also a strong character though in a more understated way. I think Wanda is similar to Bella in that her strength is not in a physical way, and it is not in dominating the men in her life. They are strong like an average teenage girl is strong, in a relatable way.
I recently read The Host and found it just as poorly written as her Twilight series. But the point is this: The Host is an adult novel, and I would expect adult women to be able to make informed choices about their lives and relationships. I know some pretty savvy teenage women, but for every one I know, there are at least 3 others who aren't as capable as their peers, and it's for that reason I found Meyer's characterization of Bella.

Thanks for your comment.
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At last.
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Cecily,

I've started reading the Twilight series to see what all the fuss is about. My nieces love them. I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who has had the same impression and reservations about the book. I'm half way through new moon, reading about the scars on Emily's face caused by "the man who loves her" but "can't control himself." Of course he suffers deeply for the wounds he has inflicted... Come on... this is an abuse cliche: the victimized, but loyal woman, and the repentant but somehow blameless male abuser who can't fight his nature...she made me angry.

I agree that this isn't meant to be a model for tweens, but it is so emotionally seductive (and brooding). I don't suggest preventing kids from reading the books, but some discussion would be healthy. These are destructive and disturbing relationships.
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Thanks for being honest about the books. I can't stand it how so many girls read that trash and defend the abusive relationship between Edward and Bella. Its sickening.

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